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Written statements from the women:

• “Our chests are not our faces we have eyes!”
• “No means no, learn how to take a hint!”
• “If you give a compliment mean it! Tell us that we’re beautiful!”
• “Why do you think you need sex all the time sex isn’t everything”
• “You don’t understand that girls that are a little overweight have feelings too.”
• “Women are not meat so respect them”
• “Girls are more than looks they have personalities too.”
• “Girls want to know you like them for who they are”
• “When girls say NO it means NO, not try again in 5 minutes”
• “No means no. She’s not joking”
• “Keep your hands to yourself when you’re wasted”
• “I don’t understand why guys think that they have all the power when it comes to relationships”
• “No means no!”
• “ If a girl says no, she usually means no”
• “Just because I’m drunk doesn’t mean I want to have sex”
• “Not every girl wants to be sexually active”
• “Respect me and don’t try to use me”
• “NO Means NO!”
• “If a girl is considered a Ho when sleeping around then a guy should be considered the same”
• “Why can’t you guys stay with a girl when she wants you to wait for sex.”
• “Be careful how you are around us you don’t know what has already happen to us. And what we are comfortable with.”
• “We are a person, not objects”
• “Women need respect”
• “We are vulnerable and not as strong as you! and it is scary”
• “We care more about the person inside than outside”
• “Just because a girl doesn’t “put out” or make out with a guy, doesn’t mean she’s prude. Give her a break.
• “just because a girl has a bad reputation doesn’t give you the right to treat her like crap”
• “When a girl says no, she means it”
• “You need to ask before you have sex. Don’t take control.”
• “Respect us for who we are and what we stand for.”
• “No means NO!”
• “NO means NO”
• “Girls will not always have sex with you even if you are all sweet & romantic one night.”
• “Most women want love, not sex.”
• “Most women seek virgins, not “experienced” guys! I do.”
• “Remember, you won’t explode.”
• “Even though I may act like “one of the guys” with you, I am NOT a guy; I am a girl.”
• “ We all – Men and Women have Nipples”
• “Just because I am petite does not mean I can’t protect myself from sexual assault or rape.”
• “LOOK AT MY FACE NOT MY BREAST”
• “Think with your right head!”
• “Bragging about sexual experiences isn’t cool.”
• “Bragging about sex & sexual partners isn’t cool.”
• “Respect “NO””
• “Bragging about the girl you did it with isn’t cool”
• “ Men: Please, we look to you for safety, don’t make that change.”
• “Girls have emotions. Pay attention because words don’t always reveal a girls intentions.”
• “Be respectful of our choices & accept them – don’t force anything”
• “We all humans not objects.”
• “Not all girls sleep around”
• “You need to understand that you should respect a woman for her values.”
• “Let her decide when she’s ready.”
• “Girls don’t always want to go all the way w/you if they are flirty.”
• “Girls have the ability to be powerful and strong.”
• “All guys need to understand that girls do not want SEX all the time! We weren’t made that way.”
• “Dating is not a game…It’s our hearts & emotions that are being pushed around”
• “If I wanted my ass slapped or my Boobs grabbed I would do it myself!”
• “Whats really important? You shouldn’t judge people by how they look.”
• “Why must you call us BAD names? - it’s not nice”
• “Women need to be respected”
• “Girls aren’t airheads they do know what is going on”
• “Some girls really want to just be friends… nothing more.”
• “Women are much stronger than most people give them credit for”
• “I think it’s unfair when guys say girls aren’t allowed to play”their”sports. If we can do it; Let us!”
• “Being “DRUNK” is never a good excuse for anything! “
• “Why do most guys have to be in it for sex?”
• “We don’t always want sex like they do.”
• “Sorry it seems like your always to blame”
• “ Kids come from sex – no matter how well you know your partner use protection.”
• “ Walking alone in the dark is scary”
• “ I think males don’t understand how hurtful their derogatory comments can be.”
• “ Why are sexual actions always or at least 90% on your mind?
• “Step up and be a man of God. Godly men know the right morals, So why is it so hard for men to have a strong faith?”
• “We have a right to stand up for ourselves and express our feelings. Don’t tell us to “pop a Midol””
• “ If in a relationship where sex is happening – don’t feel that when you want it you get it.”
• Hey Guys – “most girls like it when guys don’t feel like they have to”prove” their masculinity.”
• “Dancing with you at riley doesn’t mean I want 2 have sex w/you.”
• “No means No.”
• “We are all people, we aren’t objects! We have feelings too.”
• “ Not all girls want to have sex all the time.”
• “Don’t judge people by the way they look or dress.”
• “Don’t judge by how we look or dress”
• “- Don’t force a girl to have intercourse”
• “Women are worth more than you think. We can do a lot more than make babies & clean the house.”
• “Women are not objects”
• “Is sex really all guys think about?”
• “I am more than just an object to look at”
• “” No doesn’t mean yes.”
• “I don’t know “is a NO!”
• “Don’t push it.””
• “Sex is not ‘good’ unless feeling are shared. We must have a connection.”
• “Just because a woman dresses sexy doesn’t mean they want to have sex”
• “You need to understand that sex is more than an act. Emotion plays a part”
• “Remember girls get jealous when you want something to happen with another girl.”
• “Think before you act, how your actions will affect you and the others around you.”
• “When we say no we mean no! we aren’t trying to tease you.”
• ‘Understand that we have feelings, and everything said to us affects us.”
• “Remember not every girl in the room wants to hook up with you.”
• “Respect our decisions!”
• “I’m tired of a promiscuous women being labeled a ‘slut’ or a ‘whore,’ whereas a man with just as many partners (if not more) is called ‘the man’ and congratulated and praised.”
• “Women are not possessions”
• “Having sex is more emotional for girls than it is for guys.”
• “I miss my boyfriend back home – So when I tell you I have one – leave me the HELL alone!”
• “Sex isn’t everything!”
• “Women are not objects or possessions. We are human beings that have rights, emotions & feelings too.”
• “We are women. Women are people. We may not be as strong, dominate or aggressive as you, but we are people. Treat us with respect: not as objects. Thank you!”
• “Be more respectful when dating, as in respect her wishes”
• “I am a person. I breathe, think and eat just like you so respect me”
• “Not all girls are easy”
• “ Women can do the same type of job a man can do.”
• “No MEANS NO! Don’t have sex to be a man.”
• “Good things will come to those who wait and have patience and respect”
  “Not all girls are sluts”
• “Just because we drink to get crazy and drunk, doesn’t mean we want to have sexual activity.”
• “Just because women drink doesn’t mean they want and can be taken advantage of.”
• “pressuring women into sex is wrong and manipulative.”
• “I am worth it!”
• “Girls really strive to get guys attention, we really take comments to heart.”
• “Be nice even if we are not. We have mood swings”
• “Just because we are women doesn’t mean we can’t do things men can do.”
• “Respect our choices, never pressure us”
• “Girls know when you’re getting cheap feels.”
• “How girls get harassed about breasts!”
• “Why girls get so emotional”
• “Listen to us we aren’t talking to the wall!”
• “Show Respect”
• “Some girls aren’t always PMSing!”
• “Not all girls think sex is an important part of a relationship.”
• “Abstinence is about being strong and the want to give your husband or wife all you possibly can.”
• “Just because we are mad or irritable dose not =PMS”
• “Listen to women when they say NO and when to back off.”
• “Just cause we dress ‘sexy’ doesn’t mean to take advantage or force!”
• “Though you may love someone, you need to know when to stop if pursued by a girl.”
• “Just because a girl has multiple partners doesn’t mean she’s a slut.”
• “Girls and women aren’t property to be owned but instead people who deserve the very best respect!”
• “Guys if you want to ask a girl out, do . The worst we can say is No.”
• “Why do you feel like you have to have sex all the time. Sometimes is fine but there are other things to do. Women are more than just sex.”
• “We should throw rocks at them : )”
• “Think with the head on your shoulders not the one in your pants”
• “When someone says No they mean NO”
• “Don’t thrust your hips into my butt when dancing at Riley’s”
• “You don’t understand periods!”
• “I would like 2 wear something sexy w /o hearing a sexual remark. If my clothes show skin, it doesn’t mean I’m a slut.”
• “Don’t brag about how many times you had sex & who you had sex with. It’s really sick to know.”
• “You shouldn’t think that acting all manly isn’t the best way to go A lady would consent readily if he was sensitive.”
• “They shouldn’t judge ya by how you look.”
• “Angry, moody does not mean PMS’

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Ron Vick, MA, LPC
Counselor / Academic Advisor
Int'l Student Advisor