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RELATIONSHIP VIOLENCE: WHAT IT IS AND WHAT I SHOULD DO
HAPPENS TO ME?
Relationship violence, (also known as dating violence)
is a pattern of abusive behavior by one person as a means
of gaining control over the other person. This may occur
in an intimate long-term or casual relationship. This abusive
behavior is frequently some combination of emotional, psychological,
physical, and or sexual, abuse.
Relationship Violence: According to the Centers for Disease
Control, abuse is present in 32% of college relationships.
It is important to note that relationship violence can happen
in any kind of relationship. Gay, lesbian and straight relationships
are all-susceptible to violence and abuse. In straight relationships,
men can be both the abuser and the abused, although men
perpetrate 95% of all serious physical abuse (Bureau Of
Justice Statistics). The fact is that abuse is present in
all types of college relationships and it usually takes
one of these forms.
Types of Abuse:
- May take the form of negative comments about a
weight, appearance, intelligence, or ability.
- Comments are meant to lower the partner's self-
- Jealous or controlling behavior; how you look,
what you wear, where you go, who you see.
- Threat of harm to self, partner, other family
members, or pets.
- Abuse will be subtle at first, but usually escalates
- The abuser slowly isolates the person from friends
- May start by making comments like, "Your
friends don't like me they're out to break us up"
or "Lets not visit your parents this weekend,
I don't think they like me."
- The abuser will demand more and more of his/her
partner's time, and will become extremely jealous
when his/her partner spends time with other people
or on other activities i.e. school/studying.
- Isolation from friends and family takes away his/her
partners support system and makes him/her more and
more dependent on the abuser.
- May not be displayed or evident at the beginning
of the relationship
- May start out as grabbing, pushing, or poking
- Usually escalates overtime to slapping, punching,
- May also include sexual assault see related site
Ron Vick, MA, LPC
Counselor / Academic Advisor
Int'l Student Advisor