Personal Counseling > Grief and Loss > How to help a friend cope with loss

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• Listen.

• Be willing just to be with the person without doing anything specific. Don't be afraid of silence.

• Permit the grieving person to express feelings honestly and openly - encourage reminiscence.

• Don't be afraid of embarrassing yourself by saying or doing the wrong thing.

• Respect the desire for privacy by allowing the person time alone, but let him/her know you'll be there if needed or wanted.

• Be attentive to the individual's needs. Offer help with day-to-day practical matters.

• Invite the person to do things with you.

• Don't be afraid to reach out a hand or touch the person whenever and wherever seems appropriate. A tender touch or a smile can communicate caring in ways that words cannot express.

• Do something special to clearly convey you care such as writing some kind words, calling on the telephone or giving a small gift to help to uplift spirits.

• Suggest reading materials or support groups to possibly help the person better understand and cope with the loss.

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Ron Vick, MA, LPC
Counselor / Academic Advisor
Int'l Student Advisor