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Wayne State College
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Student Center, Rm. 103
1111 Main St.
Wayne, NE 68787

Phone: 402.375.7321
Fax: 402.375.7058

 

 

Personal Counseling > Addictive Relationships > The Basis of the Addiction

 

 :: The Basis of the Addiction :: Are You Addicted? ::
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Strategies for Overcoming Relationship Addictions ::
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When to Seek Professional Help ::
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There are several factors that can influence your decision to remain in an unhealthy relationship. At the most superficial level are practical considerations such as financial entanglement, shared living quarters, potential impact on children, feared disapproval from others, and possible disruption in academic performance or career plans.

At a deeper level are the beliefs you hold about relationships in general, about this specific relationship, and about yourself. These beliefs may take the form of learned societal messages such as "Love is forever," "You are a failure if you end a relationship," "Being alone is terrible," and "You should never hurt anyone." Also relevant are beliefs about yourself such as "I'll never find anyone else," "I'm not attractive or interesting enough," or "If I work hard enough I should be able to save this relationship."

At the deepest level are unconscious feelings that can keep you trapped. These feelings develop early in childhood, often operate without your awareness, and can exert considerable influence on your life. Children need to be loved, nurtured, and encouraged in their independence. To the extent that parents are successful in doing this, their children will be able to feel secure as adults in moving in and out of relationships. To the extent that these needs are not met their children may be left feeling "needy" as adults and may thus be more vulnerable to dependent relationships.

 

Need Additional Help?

 

The staff of the WSC Counseling Center is available for free workshops and offers individual counseling to help with these issues. For more information, call the Counseling Center at (402) 375-7321.

Wayne State College
Counseling Center
Student Center, Room 103

 

 

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Ron Vick, MA, LPC
Counselor / Academic Advisor
Int'l Student Advisor

 

 

 

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